Okay, this may be silly, but I need your feedback...
Mid last week someone affiliated with my work comes in and brings me and a co-workwer of mine some flowers - two boquets, in fact. Seperate packaging, handed to us at different times....you get the picture!
My co-worker says "put them together in one vase". I take the flowers and trim them, add the flower food to TWO vases, and place one on her desk; one on mine. I go to physio and make sure my vase has tons of water (the flowers are still budding and won't open for a while) so my flowers will last the weekend and open in all their splendor when I get in Monday morning.....
This morning my flowers are GONE and I have an email stating" Hope you don't mind, I took the flowers home so I could enjoy them." TODAY is her day off!!!! So...she can't even bring them back in to me for me to enjoy.
Am I being silly, catty, ridiculous? Or am I right and allowed to be FURIOUS! I, myself, would never! HHHHHMMMMMPPPPPHHHHHHH!
Feedback?
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barbaranoela
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RAGE
My 3cents worth---
I'd be furious and absolutley state so!!!!
Thats BS>
She has some nerve(being nice) and I know she is a co-worker but this is a bit much!!!!
U know me PIPPI~~~~~~ dont mince words~~~
luv Cuz, Barb
I'd be furious and absolutley state so!!!!
Thats BS>
She has some nerve(being nice) and I know she is a co-worker but this is a bit much!!!!
U know me PIPPI~~~~~~ dont mince words~~~
luv Cuz, Barb
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You have a right to feel cheated, and a right to be furious.
That said, how will a confrontation affect your work relationship in the future? Is it worth making an enemy in a bad place, (in your work environment), (or rather, is it worth acknowledging that you are working with a callous, selfish, individual, who doesn't place any value on your feelings, knowing that it will probably result in permanent hostility).
In the interest of long-term tranquility, I would probably be mad as hell, privately, but gracious to a fault, in her presence. Maybe she has never received any flowers before, and she's overwhelmed, and doesn't know to act.
There are a lot of dumb-asses in the world. Don't let her spoil your week.
Hugs,
Wayne
That said, how will a confrontation affect your work relationship in the future? Is it worth making an enemy in a bad place, (in your work environment), (or rather, is it worth acknowledging that you are working with a callous, selfish, individual, who doesn't place any value on your feelings, knowing that it will probably result in permanent hostility).
In the interest of long-term tranquility, I would probably be mad as hell, privately, but gracious to a fault, in her presence. Maybe she has never received any flowers before, and she's overwhelmed, and doesn't know to act.
There are a lot of dumb-asses in the world. Don't let her spoil your week.
Hugs,
Wayne
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Next time, take the flowers home, and I would lock EVERYTHING up before leaving at night! Maybe she'll notice.
If I weren't so truthful, think I'd pretend that I'd not gotten her email, and tell her almost tearfully, how disappointed you were that someone had "stolen" your flowers, as you were so looking forward to seeing them first thing Monday morning. Do you think she'd care? If after that, she doesn't fess up, then I don't think she's got alot of character, frankly.
By the way, I have a male inlaw has occasionally done things with our property in a way that I would've asked him not to do, had I known he was going to do it, and it burns me up sometimes. Thankfully, it's not too often that this happens. Sometimes it's just not worth the trouble trying to change people.
For instance, when my dad died, Mom received a properly folded flag as Dad was a vet. Welp, when we got home, he said, "Let's open it up!" I was pretty firm about the fact that we WEREN'T unfolding that flag!
Is it just me, or isn't that something a grown man should know would not be appropriate? He was dead serious too, and if I'd not been there to stop him, he'd have gone right ahead and opened it, and he'd STILL be on crutches to this day! Haha!
What would you think of someone who thinks like THAT?
Yours, Luce
If I weren't so truthful, think I'd pretend that I'd not gotten her email, and tell her almost tearfully, how disappointed you were that someone had "stolen" your flowers, as you were so looking forward to seeing them first thing Monday morning. Do you think she'd care? If after that, she doesn't fess up, then I don't think she's got alot of character, frankly.
By the way, I have a male inlaw has occasionally done things with our property in a way that I would've asked him not to do, had I known he was going to do it, and it burns me up sometimes. Thankfully, it's not too often that this happens. Sometimes it's just not worth the trouble trying to change people.
For instance, when my dad died, Mom received a properly folded flag as Dad was a vet. Welp, when we got home, he said, "Let's open it up!" I was pretty firm about the fact that we WEREN'T unfolding that flag!
Is it just me, or isn't that something a grown man should know would not be appropriate? He was dead serious too, and if I'd not been there to stop him, he'd have gone right ahead and opened it, and he'd STILL be on crutches to this day! Haha!
What would you think of someone who thinks like THAT?
Yours, Luce
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Liz
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I endorse everything that Wayne said. This is an egotistical unthinking person & I don't think that she would even consider how you feel about it. I would take it as a lesson in her selfish out look & move on. But you know what to do in future.
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Liz
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MaggieRedwings
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Morning Peg,
I would be hoppin mad too but since it is a co-worker and you have to be in the same environment and still get along, I would be inwardly mad but brush it over with her in a nice but off-handed way. Do not bow to her since she obviously has no feelings anyway.
Love, Maggie
I would be hoppin mad too but since it is a co-worker and you have to be in the same environment and still get along, I would be inwardly mad but brush it over with her in a nice but off-handed way. Do not bow to her since she obviously has no feelings anyway.
Love, Maggie
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Peg,
I would let her know in a nice way that you were disappointed (not furious
) to find the flowers were gone because you had planned (hoped?) to enjoy them on Monday. Say it with a slight smile - maybe she'll feel badly and apologize. Other than that, keep the peace even though you have every right to be mad. My two cents.
Love,
Alice
I would let her know in a nice way that you were disappointed (not furious
) to find the flowers were gone because you had planned (hoped?) to enjoy them on Monday. Say it with a slight smile - maybe she'll feel badly and apologize. Other than that, keep the peace even though you have every right to be mad. My two cents. Love,
Alice
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