Will I be able to help my mother?

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Will I be able to help my mother?

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Hi friends,

I am kind of excited after having talked to my mother on the phone yesterday. She is closer than ever to taking the step of eliminating dairy from her diet - I sensed it in something she said. She has realized that cheese makes her sick and most yoghurts too, but she still drinks a little milk and eats a low fat yoghurt every morning for breakfast.

My mother has been gluten free for almost 15 years. She lives in Denmark and was diagnosed as having Celiac Disease many years ago. Of course now that I have come down with MC and am able to stay in remission by elimination of certain food groups it has become clear to me that my mother in all probability has MC. Even though she has been gluten free for all those years she still isn't completely symptom free.
She envies me that I have been able to go into remission. I believe this is what drives her in direction of eliminating dairy from her diet.

My mother has a long love affair with dairy. I encouraged her to eliminate dairy long ago - over a year ago - but she is too stubborn to do it; even for a week or 10 days. Is she addicted to dairy? She LOVES the yoghurt.

Yesterday was the first time I have felt that she is close to taking the step of being completely dairy free for 10 days. She is close to admitting to herself that she probably reacts to dairy.

I am sooooooooooo eager for her to try being dairy free to see if it will help her; I can't wait till she gets rid of the continuous rumbling of the digestive system - I wish she could feel how wonderful life is w/o the unasiness of the grinding intestines. Please, cross your fingers for her - that she will try it just for 10 days. Just long enough to see if it helps.

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Hi Karen,

I hope you've inspired her to give it a fair trial.

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Dairy must be addictive. I have a friend who was diagnosed with lactose intolerance about a month ago--he has diarrhea, every day. He refuses to stop drinking milk, though. He says he has to have it. Obviously, he's addicted to it.

Good luck.

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I hope it makes all the difference for her and she is able to stick to it.

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I really hope she follows what you suggest. Love Oma
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Hi Karen,

I feel for your mom, and understand being addicted to milk. Maybe if she can find a sorbet that doesn't have dairy in it, she'd have a little something to fall back on. That helps me a little. I miss yogurt with cottage cheese mixed in it. And cottage cheese with pineapple. But most of all I miss all the quick meals: high protein, no cooking.

I'm crossing my fingers for her! Marsha
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Post by Jean »

Karen,

I can so sympathy with you!

My Mom has taken over two years to be good at gluten free. She still will have a doughnut and then call me and wonder why she has D the next day... Now that she's had bypass surgery, she's supposed to be watching her cholesterol and sodium intake. Sunday she had bacon and eggs!

I think that the older a person is, the longer it takes for them to change their diet. Don't give up and don't push. I know that's the hardest thing to do, but eventually, she will see for herself. It has to be her decision or she will never have the resolve to stick to it.

I hope she at least tries it for a few days without saying anything to you. I know I stopped talking to my mom about gluten and that's when she started doing a better job.

Good Luck! Love, Jean
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Hi Karen,

Fingers XXXXXXXX in Alaska for your Mom to take that step to see if it helps. I thought dairy was going to be a big problem for me but it wasn't so bad afterall. Like you said, if she would just try a 10 day trial at least she would probably see results.

Have you suggested she have a colonoscopy to find out if she has MC?

By the way, how was the run? Like to hear some details about your experience.

Love,
Joanna
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Hi,

Thank you all for your understanding and crossed fingers. I think it will help. I am not pushing the issue very hard - in fact I haven't pushed much at all since she visited me in April of last year. What really works is that I am an example she can follow if she wishes to. It's being an inspiration; believe me - I can't tell her what to do :roll:

I haven't called to ask her how she is doing on a dairy free diet because I am not sure she has taken the step yet :neutral:

You know, she doesn't want to waste anything so she probably has to finish the yoghurt and milk that's still in the refrigerator..............

Jean, do you think it is the age? I think perhaps they like to act like kids that are rebelling against what their daughters and their doctors say. And then they enjoy rubbing it in too - like your mother with her bacon and eggs; did she really have to TELL you that she had done it? It's like they are hunting for an excuse not to get well :wink:

I don't know; I give up on trying to figure out why they do their diet the way they do it - but I still wish she would give herself a chance by cutting the darn dairy out already!! :wink:

Joanna, I am racing Saturday morning at 6:30 am in Myrtle Beach come rain or shine. We don't know if it is going to rain - it isn't looking pretty. I am confident I will complete the half marathon- the training I have done has prepared me very well; I am hoping I will feel good enough to finish in a good time (the times are all relative to what you expect). It is my goal to finish in 2 hours and 8 minutes but secretly I hope I am just a little bit better than that; I know I am faster than that on a good day but I am going to run conservatively meaning not going out too fast and trying to conserve some energy for the end of the run when the going gets tough.

I will let you know all about the half marathon event and my experience.

Sleep Tight!

Love,
Karen
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