when sadness re-groups a family--a wee story

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when sadness re-groups a family--a wee story

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I now have 2 livings relatives left--my aunt joan and and my single Uncle Walt aka MUSCLES :lol: they are my moms sister and brother--
We always called him that--why? I dont know but it gave him a chuckle--
They still live in Mass. one in Fall River the other in Swansea(where babci resides too)

Two days ago my Aunt Kay,in Santa Barbara, passed away--

I have many cousins,scattered thruout the states,but somehow we just all lost touch of each other---how sad--

When I got word of Aunt Kay's passing I was upset due to the fact that I had put off my calling her ---it was a every 2 weeks chat--
She was always a barrel of funny things to say--and even tho had many health issues, always so happy--
And so I wanted to bang my head against the wall for putting off--

Naturally I called my cousin Katherine--and we chatted--
From that point I called all my cousins and it was as tho we have always been talking all these passing years--
Of course, it was *remember when~~~~ and the laughs--
My fav. story,which I think I once posted,was the time my Uncle Joe(he was 2 years older than me) *and NO--UNCLE calling when with his friedns* :smile: was when he and I went under the porch crawl space and we had our first smoke---made outta cork husks and the silks--How he got these together I cant remember--all I know I got sick as a dog---and my Aunt was furious--- :lol: This Aunt Jean being Uncle Joe's sister and my mom(his other sister) wanted to slap him upside the head too~~~

I know nothing of my dad's family cus there was a falling out--waaaaaaay back when he was a young man and he disowned himself from his family--

So I said to my Cousin Walter and wife Carole--well this family must be having a wing-ding time upstairs--- :thumbsup:
Knowing how crazy they were when we would go there for vacations--this Polish family surely knew how to have a HUPALAH of a time :lol: :lol:

And to think--my Uncle Muscles still lives in this Old old house where all these kids were born(13) I believe--and of course several died in childbirth--
This place has to be @ least 100 year old eye-sore in an upgraded neighborhod----cus he REFUSED to sell---when all these new developments were going up--
My xcitment ,of arriving there,escalated when I always saw this HUMUNGOUS BOULDER that was the trademark on that old dirt road to my Babci's house~~~~

I have to say how good I feel inside for making all the calls and having good remembering talks--
Hopefully,we can keep the chain of communicating open---After talking with them I thought --boy how I luve these guys~~~
My cousin Teddy travels with his wife and cousin Jan is an Oceanographer--so he is always away---
And 3 cousins out in Long Island~~~and lord knows how many children their married kids have!!!!

Well, just felt like sharing some of my family with U all~~~gone but never forgotten---

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Post by tex »

Wow, Barbara,

That isn't just a post--that's literature. Your writing is so vivid, that after reading that, I feel as though I have known everyone you wrote about.

Thanks for sharing that. It brought a tear to my eye, and I don't even know why. That's another reason why I think it's literature.

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Wow....I am so glad you were able to contact some family members...it is so much fun to trip down memory lane....so sorry about your auntie's death. TTFN...JJ
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Great story Barb, how lucky you are to still have those rellies left. All of mine, as well as some cousins are gone although I still have a few of those left along with numerous nieces, nephews & second cousins. We don't see much of each other now & we mainly seemed to meet up at our parents funerals. Sad. Was able to meet up with some of them on a couple of occasions in recent times though. My sister's 50th wedding anniversary was a great opportunity to catch up. We always promise that we will keep in touch but are so busy in our own lives that it seems to go bye the bye.

My family is quite huge really because my Dad had seven brothers & sisters & Mum had five. I also have two sisters & three brothers, all bar one being grandparents & great grand parents now. If we had a reunion we would need to hire the Convention Centre I reckon. My younger sister only lives 1/2 hour away on Bribie Island. Even then we are both so busy, & she even more so, with just having got her second grandchild, that we don't see each other a great lot. But we still keep in touch by phone & email.

Re the smoking: My sister & I used to collect dad's old dumpers & if we could not pinch some ciggie papers we used to roll the left over tobacco up in toilet paper. Your corn husk ones sound a bit healthier that ours. We would go into the bathroom & turn the taps on so Mum would not hear us striking matches. Don't know why she did not appear to smell the rotten smoke. I think we did get a bit queasy.Image

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Post by Lucy »

Hi Barbs,

Hope you exchanged e-mail addresses. That's how I've actually become better acquainted with some of my cousins, and even their kids. I call it "lateral geneology." 'Course THAT makes absolutely NO sense, but it's cute, don'tcha think?

Anyway, try it, you'll like it.

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Post by MaggieRedwings »

Morning Barbara,

Boy do I hate not being able to get on the board from home. When time permits I am really going to put that computer to task and find out why.

Thank you so much for introducing me to all of your relatives. Your writing like Tex said - is so eloquent and you bring me right to that old house. From someone who only has a brother and his children - it is fun to share in others families.

You did good.

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Post by annie oakley »

You're so lucky to have Cousins left to talk to. The only realitive I knoww for sure I have left on my side is a sister (best friend) and a brother that hates us both, his loss. It's a long story. Anyway Sorry that you Lost Aunt Kay. It's tough to lose them, it lets us know we are also getting older. Love Oma
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Post by Peggy »

I'm sorry to hear about your Aunt Kay. I'm glad you got to share and laugh with other family members. Memories are ours to treasure.

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It's nice that you reconnected with some family members. I am sorry to hear you lost your aunt. I think we always feel like we could have spent more time with a passing relative or friend, but we have to remember the good times we had with them and not feel regret.
Our family seemed to come closer when Mom passed away and I have had more contact with my cousins since then. I guess we all get busy with our own lives and it takes something like the passing of a precious one to make us stop and think about what and who is important in our lives.
I must give my aunt a call today. She is pretty much the only one of that generation om Mom's side of the family still living and she is a real sweetie. She's 87 and has arthritis really bad, but keeps a positive attitude and still enjoys life and her family. She learned how to use the computer because her only son is on a two year teaching project in China and so he gave her his computer so they could communicate often. She's doing really well with it, but sometimes needs a bit of my help with it, but I sure give her credit for her perserverance.

Anyway, take care.

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