Hi All,
At the risk of being a little morbid, I've been thinking about what would happen if one of us became very sick or died, how would this board know? I feel very close to all of you, but my family has little idea about the board. They hear me talk about you, but I don't think any one of them would make the connection to inform you if something happened to me.
How do we know if we don't see posts from someone for a while if something has happened or they are just busy with other things? I'm thinking maybe we should have an "emergency number" list. I would probably use one of my daughter's email addresses.
Am I being weird? Any thoughts?
Love, Jean
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I have instructed Mike to get on the web and have bookmarked this site for him. He is to leave a message for all of you, or I have showed him where I have Waynes ph#.
I have told him you a;; are my friends and that you all would need to be informed. He agreed. Love Oma
I have told him you a;; are my friends and that you all would need to be informed. He agreed. Love Oma
May I be more compassionate and loving than yeterday*and be able to spot the idiots in advance
Jean, you are not being wierd or morbid. I'm really glad you brought it up!!!
I am a member of another small group (unconnected with MC or even health) and about a year after I joined it a VERY nice lady who was in bad health (heart) and had been having some pretty bad computer problems just disappeared from the board. It has been about 3 years now since anyone has heard from her. Some, including me, had her e-mail address and our messages went unanswered. Unfortunately, none of us had her phone # or address. We are convinced now that she passed away. How we wish we'd had some way to contact her family.
I hope something can be worked out.
Thank you for posting this.
Love, Shirley
I am a member of another small group (unconnected with MC or even health) and about a year after I joined it a VERY nice lady who was in bad health (heart) and had been having some pretty bad computer problems just disappeared from the board. It has been about 3 years now since anyone has heard from her. Some, including me, had her e-mail address and our messages went unanswered. Unfortunately, none of us had her phone # or address. We are convinced now that she passed away. How we wish we'd had some way to contact her family.
I hope something can be worked out.
Thank you for posting this.
Love, Shirley
When the eagles are silent, the parrots begin to jabber"
-- Winston Churchill
-- Winston Churchill
Hi Jean,
Nope, you're not being weird. In fact we talked about this sometime back, apparently while you were away for a while, (just guessing, since I don't see your name on the list). We have compiled a list of names, addresses, phone numbers, email addresses, etc., but we didn't think about "next of kin", or "emergency" contact information, when were were assimilating that list.
If I recall correctly, Peggy was in charge of collecting the information that went on that list, but a number of us have a copy of it. I'll email you a copy of the current list.
When we developed the original list, we were primarily concerned with the possible need to make contact with others in the event of an emergency, but we really didn't consider the possibility of someone's passing.
Are you saying that we may not be immortal? LOL. Gosh, I hate to think about that. I'm not sure whether I would rather know the cold, hard facts, or just assume that someone absent was busy enjoying other pursuits. I'll go along with whatever the consensus of opinion suggests. We can just update and add to the information that we already have on file.
In fact, I'll tell you what I can do, if a majority of members want to do this. I can set up a "hidden" forum, that only members with the proper permission can view. It will be invisible to the outside world, and it will be invisible to members who do not have the proper permission. I can also set it up so that you can edit your own information record, so that you can change it or update it anytime you want. IOW, anyone who has permission to view that forum would be able to "moderate" it. This way, anytime one of us felt the urgent need to contact someone, the information would be available. This information would be invisible to search engines, also, of course.
The other alternative would be to just continue to collect the information separate from the board, and exchange that information by email or PM as needed.
How do each of us feel about this?
Love,
Wayne
P S Obviously, permission to view the hidden forum would only be granted to members we know well enough to trust with such important information, and unless there is a valid reason to do otherwise, I would assume that permission should only be granted to those who supply their own contact information.
Nope, you're not being weird. In fact we talked about this sometime back, apparently while you were away for a while, (just guessing, since I don't see your name on the list). We have compiled a list of names, addresses, phone numbers, email addresses, etc., but we didn't think about "next of kin", or "emergency" contact information, when were were assimilating that list.
If I recall correctly, Peggy was in charge of collecting the information that went on that list, but a number of us have a copy of it. I'll email you a copy of the current list.
When we developed the original list, we were primarily concerned with the possible need to make contact with others in the event of an emergency, but we really didn't consider the possibility of someone's passing.
Are you saying that we may not be immortal? LOL. Gosh, I hate to think about that. I'm not sure whether I would rather know the cold, hard facts, or just assume that someone absent was busy enjoying other pursuits. I'll go along with whatever the consensus of opinion suggests. We can just update and add to the information that we already have on file.
In fact, I'll tell you what I can do, if a majority of members want to do this. I can set up a "hidden" forum, that only members with the proper permission can view. It will be invisible to the outside world, and it will be invisible to members who do not have the proper permission. I can also set it up so that you can edit your own information record, so that you can change it or update it anytime you want. IOW, anyone who has permission to view that forum would be able to "moderate" it. This way, anytime one of us felt the urgent need to contact someone, the information would be available. This information would be invisible to search engines, also, of course.
The other alternative would be to just continue to collect the information separate from the board, and exchange that information by email or PM as needed.
How do each of us feel about this?
Love,
Wayne
P S Obviously, permission to view the hidden forum would only be granted to members we know well enough to trust with such important information, and unless there is a valid reason to do otherwise, I would assume that permission should only be granted to those who supply their own contact information.
It is suspected that some of the hardest material known to science can be found in the skulls of GI specialists who insist that diet has nothing to do with the treatment of microscopic colitis.
I like the hidden forum idea. People often change their email address or they move and notify me by email and I scribble the info down on a little piece of paper and the first thing I do is lose it!! This way we would all be responsible for our own info and could change it whenever the need arises.
Also I have told all four of my children that if I should be seriously ill or dead that they should get on the Board and tell people. I have this site on my desktop and I am always logged on so they should not have any problem. Obviously, if I am dead, I am not going to be able to report in myself. This is one of my important "arrangements" that I have in my safe "in the event of my death." Along with my will, the code to the burglar alarm, the name and number of the folks who will take care of my remains, and so forth. Also $100 in cash to pay for the booze which will be drunk at my Memorial Party. I have made and paid for all my funeral (which there won't be one) stuff ahead of time.
I don't think this is morbid at all. I think it is something that everyone can do and it is really an act of love to take care of it and not make your grieving (hopefully) family have to deal with.
Lots of love,
Sally (ALIVE)
Also I have told all four of my children that if I should be seriously ill or dead that they should get on the Board and tell people. I have this site on my desktop and I am always logged on so they should not have any problem. Obviously, if I am dead, I am not going to be able to report in myself. This is one of my important "arrangements" that I have in my safe "in the event of my death." Along with my will, the code to the burglar alarm, the name and number of the folks who will take care of my remains, and so forth. Also $100 in cash to pay for the booze which will be drunk at my Memorial Party. I have made and paid for all my funeral (which there won't be one) stuff ahead of time.
I don't think this is morbid at all. I think it is something that everyone can do and it is really an act of love to take care of it and not make your grieving (hopefully) family have to deal with.
Lots of love,
Sally (ALIVE)
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Jean and all----its a good thing to have a plan made----we are family---
And MOI----- I planned what i want have done for me--
Have my outfit picked out also----
I am also making a tape----to be played and some will like what I have to say and some wont
Nothing like going out with a *bang* --cremation---dont wanna be eaten by the maggots and such```
And I wanted *Sailing* by Christopher Cross played in church---BUT accoring to the Catholic ritual U CANNOT deviate from the *funeral mass*
BAH---The roman catholic church is to stringent with their rules---they need to loosen up---
luve Barbara---
PS. Lou knows the routine here and he knows where I have a bunch of phone numbers--
And MOI----- I planned what i want have done for me--
Have my outfit picked out also----
I am also making a tape----to be played and some will like what I have to say and some wont
Nothing like going out with a *bang* --cremation---dont wanna be eaten by the maggots and such```
And I wanted *Sailing* by Christopher Cross played in church---BUT accoring to the Catholic ritual U CANNOT deviate from the *funeral mass*
BAH---The roman catholic church is to stringent with their rules---they need to loosen up---
luve Barbara---
PS. Lou knows the routine here and he knows where I have a bunch of phone numbers--
the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness and self-control
Guess I'm getting senile. Didn't remember that happening, Tex, or perhaps it was during one of my "trips" and I missed it. I don't know.Shirley,
It probably happened during one of your trips.
Your Pennsylvania address, and epix email address are on the list, but there's no phone number listed. I'm guessing that the information might have been carried over from a list from Sallly's old board, but that's strictly a guess. I'm thinking that Peg said that she started with some kind of existing list, and added anyone who responded at the time.
Love,
Tex
It probably happened during one of your trips.
Your Pennsylvania address, and epix email address are on the list, but there's no phone number listed. I'm guessing that the information might have been carried over from a list from Sallly's old board, but that's strictly a guess. I'm thinking that Peg said that she started with some kind of existing list, and added anyone who responded at the time.
Love,
Tex
It is suspected that some of the hardest material known to science can be found in the skulls of GI specialists who insist that diet has nothing to do with the treatment of microscopic colitis.
Sally,
Only $100!?! Don't you think you need a lot more money for the boozes? Sounds like the Potty People alone could polish that off in no time, and I'd want to help. Nothing like an Irish wake (or at least the concept) to send one off.
Wayne, the hidden forum idea sounds good. I'm pretty sure that my kids and Dave would forget, at least at the age they are now. Thanks for emailing me the list. Should I send my info to Peggy?
Love, Jean
Only $100!?! Don't you think you need a lot more money for the boozes? Sounds like the Potty People alone could polish that off in no time, and I'd want to help. Nothing like an Irish wake (or at least the concept) to send one off.
Wayne, the hidden forum idea sounds good. I'm pretty sure that my kids and Dave would forget, at least at the age they are now. Thanks for emailing me the list. Should I send my info to Peggy?
Love, Jean
Be kind to everyone, because you never know what battles they are fighting.
Jean, the $100 is just for my kids. To get them started. Like priming the pump. Anything more than that is their responsibility. Hahahahaha!!
Besides, my mother's liquor cabinet still has unplumbed depths. I can't drink so I am not worried that they won't have enough to party down.
Love, Sally
Yeah, if you guys come I would have to leave a couple of K.
Besides, my mother's liquor cabinet still has unplumbed depths. I can't drink so I am not worried that they won't have enough to party down.
Love, Sally
Yeah, if you guys come I would have to leave a couple of K.
Mitakuye oyasin
(Lakota for "We are all related")
(Lakota for "We are all related")
Jean,
I suppose it would be ok to send her the info. Unless there are some serious objections, I might go ahead and set up that forum, so that it will be ready for use if/when we decide to go ahead with it, in which case you could just add the informaton yourself. I suppose we could always delete the whole thing, if we decide we don't like it.
Love,
Wayne
I suppose it would be ok to send her the info. Unless there are some serious objections, I might go ahead and set up that forum, so that it will be ready for use if/when we decide to go ahead with it, in which case you could just add the informaton yourself. I suppose we could always delete the whole thing, if we decide we don't like it.
Love,
Wayne
It is suspected that some of the hardest material known to science can be found in the skulls of GI specialists who insist that diet has nothing to do with the treatment of microscopic colitis.
We have another, more serious problem, and that is the fact that if anything ever happened to take me out of the picture, this board would need to be adopted by someone who knew how to operate it, take care of the routine maintenance, and, of course, pay the bills. The problem of course, is that whoever is "designated" to do that would have to have a certain amount of training, and would have to have the proper permissions to gain access to the admin panel, in order to take care of business.
IOW, arrangements would have to be made before, rather than after something happened. It's not rocket science, it's just computer "stuff", but many of the details are not obvious, nor are they intuitive, and so at least some minimum degree of training would be vital.
We really need to address this, if possible. I was once on a great internet discussion board that promptly ceased to exist after the owner was hospitalized. We never even found out what happened.
Volunteers? Nominations?
Love,
Tex
IOW, arrangements would have to be made before, rather than after something happened. It's not rocket science, it's just computer "stuff", but many of the details are not obvious, nor are they intuitive, and so at least some minimum degree of training would be vital.
We really need to address this, if possible. I was once on a great internet discussion board that promptly ceased to exist after the owner was hospitalized. We never even found out what happened.
Volunteers? Nominations?
Love,
Tex
It is suspected that some of the hardest material known to science can be found in the skulls of GI specialists who insist that diet has nothing to do with the treatment of microscopic colitis.
Hi guys and gals,
Peggy and I compiled the list way back when????????????
and all interested sent me a PM with their confidential information. Oh, I remember; it was when Tex got really sick and disappeared from the board and it ended up he was in the hospital having surgery!
Either way would be a good idea. Although the moderators have the list, if others want everyone to see the information, a private room would work.
Love,
Mars
Peggy and I compiled the list way back when????????????
and all interested sent me a PM with their confidential information. Oh, I remember; it was when Tex got really sick and disappeared from the board and it ended up he was in the hospital having surgery!Either way would be a good idea. Although the moderators have the list, if others want everyone to see the information, a private room would work.
Love,
Mars
"Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful." -- Buddha
Oh Wayne,
What a thought, I've always assumed you're immortal!
We need feedback on this. I might be willing to volunteer, but spring would be hard for me. I know something about computer stuff, but not like you. There's probably someone better...
Another thought is when do we contact next of kin? Should we set up a system, or just be intuitive about it. Some people obviously post more often than others. I guess we would use it when a regular doesn't respond to email or phone calls.
Love, Jean
What a thought, I've always assumed you're immortal!
We need feedback on this. I might be willing to volunteer, but spring would be hard for me. I know something about computer stuff, but not like you. There's probably someone better...
Another thought is when do we contact next of kin? Should we set up a system, or just be intuitive about it. Some people obviously post more often than others. I guess we would use it when a regular doesn't respond to email or phone calls.
Love, Jean
Be kind to everyone, because you never know what battles they are fighting.
I agree Jean,
I read Wayne's post last night but the thought was just so distasteful I couldn't respond right then. He is right, of course, and someone should be in the wings to take over, but I sure don't want to see the day.
I don't know enough about computers or BBoards or anything else to do the job.
Isn't it great how Wayne is always thinking about us and trying to make things so nice.
Love, Shirley
I read Wayne's post last night but the thought was just so distasteful I couldn't respond right then. He is right, of course, and someone should be in the wings to take over, but I sure don't want to see the day.
I don't know enough about computers or BBoards or anything else to do the job.
Isn't it great how Wayne is always thinking about us and trying to make things so nice.
Love, Shirley
When the eagles are silent, the parrots begin to jabber"
-- Winston Churchill
-- Winston Churchill