A new diagnosis - seems vain but I am upset about it...

artteacher · Post by **artteacher** » Sat Oct 21, 2006 5:14 pm

Hey,

I'm just saying that when you feel like cr__, and looking the mirror and look like cr__ . . . . well, it's just like having the knife twisted after you've been stabbed, you know? If you still looked good, at least you could fake feeling good. Different expectations for women . . . Look at Hillary Clinton- she's brusque, but I don't think it would be commented on in a negative way if she were a man. She'd just be called "logical" or "straightforward". But we cut guys slack for not having people skills, or charm, because those aren't high on the male priority list.

There are advantages to being female, too. There's too many to list, so it goes without saying, right? We love you, Wayne, you're pretty balanced.

Love, Marsha

Matthew · Post by **Matthew** » Sat Oct 21, 2006 7:50 pm

Grannyh and all

Well I must be a hopeless cause. I only got one out of three. Hint, I am not rich and spent the afternoon fixing some leaking plumbing at my sisters house . If I had only known I would have given up long ago. Hahahahah. Thanks for the good laugh.

I will side on good health , beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Or according to a few good friends, in the eye of the FCP , female chauvinist pigs. I have it on authority we all come both ways. :-) ;-)

In the mean time I hope you find some solace in a few things from my library of interesting quotes

Nothing's beautiful from every point of view.
   -- Horace

There is no cosmetic for beauty like happiness.
   -- Countess of Blessington

Beauty is not caused. It is.
   -- Emily Dickinson

I would warn you that I do not attribute to nature either beauty or deformity, order or confusion. Only in relation to our imagination can things be called beautiful or ugly, well-ordered or confused.
   -- Benedict Spinoza

Happiness is good health and a bad memory.
  Ingrid Bergman

Hope this helps

My best

Matthew

grannyh · Post by **grannyh** » Sun Oct 22, 2006 5:00 am

I like the one by Horace. The best way to view me tho is fully dressed with a bag over my head...ROFLMAO
Gee I feel so much better now:)
grannyh

Polly · Post by **Polly** » Sun Oct 22, 2006 6:00 am

Grannyh,

Your comment reminds me of the old Rodney Dangerfield joke. You know, the one where he talks about a "two-bag" date? A two-bag date is one where you put a bag over your own head in case the bag over your date's head rips. HAHAHAHA.

Love,

Polly

m · Post by m » Sun Oct 22, 2006 7:34 am

Mary,
I'm sorry. I feel for you. My hair has started to fall out too but I assumed it was either related to my condition or my age. I can totally relate to you feeling like this is just one more bad thing to have to deal with and you're sick of bad things. Try to remember that what we think are huge imperfections that everyone sees, mostly people DON'T see things. They're too worried about themselves and how THEY look or behave.
Take care,
m

Post by **tex** » Sun Oct 22, 2006 8:45 am

Grannyh,

While it's true that an attractive female will turn every male head, the same thing happens when the genders are reversed. Doesn't it? And, just because dogs love to chase cars, doesn't mean that they actually want to catch one. After all, what would they do if they did catch one? Sure, they might chew on the tires for a little while, and walk around it a few times, but before long, they're going to lose all interest in it, and they'll pee on one of the tires, and walk away. LOL.

Yep, men tend to notice good-looking women. Only a few dumbasses, however, (I'm talking about men, here), value looks to the exclusion of all else. Sure, appearances are important, but appearances are easily manipulated. I'm frequently in awe of some women, who would otherwise appear totally unremarkable, except that they've emphasized one or more of their better features, such as their eyes, legs, overall figure, or whatever, (including their brainpower, and/or personality), and lthey've transformed themselves into a beguiling creature that I couldn't take my eyes off.

Humans are complex creatures, though, and it takes more than favorable signals from only one of the senses to qualify another individual as a candidate for a lasting relationship. I have to go along with Benedict Spinoza's observation - it's all in the mind.

Tex

Post by **tex** » Sun Oct 22, 2006 8:53 am

Marsha,

Geez, just cause we ain't got no couth don't mean that we don't place charm high on our priority list. LOL.

I think you're exactly right, though - men view themselves in totally different ways than women view themselves. In general, I think that women are way too hard on themselves. What do you think?

Love,
Tex

barbaranoela · Post by **barbaranoela** » Sun Oct 22, 2006 9:11 am

hahahahah Grannyh-----

This topic has hit the nail on the head----waaaaay too funny--

Me too--I can boil water---and turn on the jets!!!!!

BUT GIMME my HAIR!!!!!!

Luve Barbara---. I read a woman loses about 100 stands of hair every day!!!

Its like that song--99 bottles of beer on the wall---

But YES, I will take the good health also!!!!

artteacher · Post by **artteacher** » Sun Oct 22, 2006 1:42 pm

Dear Wayne,

And you have tons of couth. I think actually that confidence is the most attractive thing, to both men and women. And yes, women are really hard on themselves.
You know, my husband looks in the mirror, with his tummy and everything, sticks up both thumbs, and says, "I look goooood!"

Love, Marsha

starfire · Post by **starfire** » Sun Oct 22, 2006 3:04 pm

Wayne, you have a talent for saying EXACTLY the right thing, methinks. AND Matthew didn't do too bad either!!

We attract nice men here don't we girls.

(We won't mention what got them here in the first place. We'll just take the credit!)

That said............

I didn't know that Asacol makes your hair fall out!!!! Aaaaarrrrrhggggghhhhh!!!! I sure hope that isn't a blanket effect!! I haven't noticed it yet.

Love, Shirley