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First I will say---she is back in the hospital--which U knew--we dont know for how long---
Second----this is something that was NEVER told to lynn---and that is--the programable shunt valve can TURN ON ITS OWN???? Now the Neuro. in Phoenix---had told Lynn--he doesnt LIKE Programable but never gave the reason~~~~
I couldnt believe,that after all these years this was told to Lynn--
Then why do a programable shunt?????
What I really needed to talk about----Kait is seeing a psychologist due to the issue of suicide ---
He asked Kait if she had these thoughts often---and she said *yes* the pain gets so unbearable and this would set her free---
I dont know what else to say-----Lou and I look @ each other and say *noooo* Kait wouldnt do that??? She luves Lynn to the limit---
But when one gets desperate enuf---I guess they might do something drastic---and then looking down think* why did I do such a horrid thing*
So thats it-----we havent heard as to whats been done for Kait now---
No doubt,Lynn will call over the weekend--
Barbara
the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness and self-control
I am not surprised that Kait is seeing someone over the thoughts she is having. She has endured more than anyone should and I can fully understand her thoughts. I had them years ago for much less than what she is going through. Mine was not medical just the personal problems I had in my former life.
I pray so hard that she gets the help that she needs - medical and for her feelings of destruction. I don't understand at all what HE is doing to this child.
Love, Maggie
Maggie Scarpone
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Dear Barb!!
I am glad to hear that Kait is talking to a physcologist!! It is alot better for a person to talk to someone outside of family and friends about their feelings.. I truly pray that this person is a good one and can get her to really open up.. None of us can even imagine the excruciating pain that she has endured in her young life.
I will continue to pray for all of you!
Love
Dee
I started writing a response late last night, but I wasn't satisfied with what I was saying, so I decided to wait until I was thinking more clearly.
Regarding thoughts of self destruction, especially in the case of teenagers - in many cases the key seems to be connected with a feeling of being loved and/or accepted. The love she shows for Lynn, for example, implies that she feels loved in return, and that's very, very important.
For some reason or other, most teenagers don't seem to recognize the finality of suicide - they don't think that far ahead. They see it as a way to solve an immediate problem, (or a perceived problem), and they don't give any thought to the fact that the results of a successful attempt would be permanent. In Kait's case, of course, she has a valid reason for feeling that way, which means that she may be viewing that option the same way that an adult would consider it.
It's a scary situation, but the reality is that she has several things working in her favor. The fact that she has gone through so much already, for so many years, without making an attempt, is definitely a plus. Also, the fact that she has a loving relationship with her family, and she feels cared for, and feels that she is a vital part of her family and her circle of friends, (and her friends all love and support her), amounts to a very strong influence on her view of her quality of life.
I think that as long as she feels loved, and as long as she feels that she's a cherished part of her family, and her circle of friends, she will continue to make the right decisions. The best thing that you, (and everyone else), can do, is to love her, and support her, and make sure that she is aware of how much you love her.
Luve,
Galahad
It is suspected that some of the hardest material known to science can be found in the skulls of GI specialists who insist that diet has nothing to do with the treatment of microscopic colitis.
I wholeheartedly agree with Wayne. Also, I agree that the "solution" is an immediate way to end the suffering and pain. I know how frustrated YOU are - think how it is for HER to endure the pain and frustration of "when" it is going to happen again. Her history has pointed out that it isn't an "if" it happens again but "when" it happens again. That is hard for the strongest adult to wrap their mind around!
Keep her folded in your loving arms and encourage her whenever you can. Kait is a strong and intelligent young lady who will make the right decision with her loving family and friends around to support her.
My love to you and prayers for the whole family.
Mars
"Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful." -- Buddha
