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Bill and I have been friends with Don & Nancy since we were married and that is a llllooooooooonnnggg time. :grin:

Don has been diagnosed with borderline inoperable pancreatic cancer. I first heard the cancer described that way on thursday. I heard a radiologist in Tampa's Moffitt Cancer Hospital say it to a radiologist in Melbourne while she was making arrangements for Don to receive his radiation there after his chemo treatments are concluded in Tampa.

Although I haven't mentioned it until now, his surgeon tried to do the Whipple Procedure last month. She was unable to complete all of the procedure due to the size of the tumor on one end of the pancreas. (I believe that end is called the "head". She did remove some of the pancreas on the other end, part of his small intestine and create a "new" bile duct (at least I believe that's what I heard). The tumor on the other end of the pancreas was too close or had "involved" a blood vessel and the surgeon didn't dare try to cut it out for fear of damaging the blood vessel. I presume it is the aorta although I have not heard anyone actually say that.

He has been home for almost 2 weeks now with a feeding tube in his stomach through which he receives a high protein formula at night. They want him to eat a lot of high calorie foods during the day but he says food tastes awful and he feels full all the time so he is'nt doing so well with that. He starts his first chemo treatment next Tuesday. That will go on for about 8 or 9 weeks. Besides oral meds he will get 1 injection a week for 2 weeks, then a week off, then repeat twice. Sometime after that the radiation will begin and that's 5 or 6 weeks of going 5 days a week.

If all that shrinks the tumor enough, the surgeon will complete the operation.

He's lost about 40 lbs since the beginning of having symptoms - just about 3 months ago.

Pancreatic cancer has about the lowest survival rate of any kind. Symptoms don't show up until the cancer is fairly advanced. I had serious doubts about his survival before I overheard the radiologist use the words borderline inoperable and now I'm even more convinced that he probably won't make it through this. I feel so bad for him, Nancy and their kids (all grown, of course).

Sorry I went into so much detail. Guess I just needed to "talk" about it.

Love, Shirley
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Gee, Shirley, that is so sad. What a prognosis. I don't know anything about pancreatic cancer except what you said--that the survival rate isn't good. My friend's father died about 3 months after being diagnosed. My daughter-in-law's mother lived about a year but went through a lot. Both of them were in their 60's. These were several years ago though so maybe treatment has gotten better.

I guess all you can do is be there for them and try to give him a few laughs. It's hard because he doesn't feel like eating and our first inclination (mine anyway) is to bring food! Oh well, make whatever Nancy likes. She probably doesn't have much appetite either, but maybe a piece of banana bread....

Well, I hope someone else will have a story with a happy ending. Will be thinking of you all down there in FLA and hoping for the best.
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Shirley,

That's a tough treatment procedure to have to go through, (over 3 months), but hopefully, he'll be one of the lucky ones, and each and every treatment will work just right, and the surgeon will be able to complete the removal.

I wish him, and everyone concerned, the very best.

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I will be praying for all involved. Very sad that he has to go through this.

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Prayers on the way....JJ
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Shirley----

My prayers are with U all-----I understand how U and Bill are feeling--

I wish I could offer more comfort,other than these words, but know that Don and Nancy--U and Bill are in my deepest thoughts---

I remember when I lost my Noreen---and as U and Bill---Noreen & Dan--me and Lou shared the same closeness --and as U said a very Looooooooooong time for us also--- :bigbighug:

Noreen passed from colon cancer----@ age 52---

Just looking Your N and D---and our N and D--
strange how things connect----

Take care dear friend----

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Post by starfire »

Thanks Everyone,
I just returned from a benefit that was given to riase money for them. Since he has to travel so far for his treatments for the chemo, operations, etc. it does rack up some dollars.

There was a very good turnout although I'm not sure how much was raised, I'm sure it was quite a bit. I know it will help them out a lot.

Thanks for all the sympathy and good wishes and prayers.

Love, Shirley
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Post by annie oakley »

As usual I don'y get on here til late....but Shirley I will pray for everyone Involved Including those who will care for him Love Oma
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