Kids can be CRUEL--so can ADULTS-ref.to Kait

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Kids can be CRUEL--so can ADULTS-ref.to Kait

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I am so HURT----
U all have read about how Louie and I--his cousin Dan and Noreen---bought a 2 family house (in 62)--and for 5 years we had our kids and watch them become so close---
We then were able to buy our own places---D and N in New Jersey--L and I here in New City---during the years Dan lost Noreen and 2 of his daughters killed in accidents---
To cut it short all the kids kept there friendships--
My Debbie and Dan's Diane became more like sisters---50 years of age and they still share their sad times--happy times--closer than close--

Well because Diane and her * companion* will be celebrating their 50th birthdays the same day in March---they decided on a big family party!!! BUT Diane does NOT want KAIT there because of Kait's issues and the fact that she doesnt want the party *RUINED*--ruin a friggen birthday party--if one of Di's nephews or her own kids had an issue would they be Xcluded!!! and I think of Lynn who has suffered to see what Kait has been thru--to HEAR why they wont be invited!!!
This is unbelievable and I know if this be the case --there is going to be a very sad ---dis-connection between Di and me---
Can U imagine how Lynn will feel --how Kait will feel---and how afraid I am that we will have a big dispute with my daughter Deb---cus of her ties to Di.--
Kait is as normal as can be-----she doesnt *drool* @ the mouth---she is just a sweet lovable person who wants so much to be with people--and be accepted as she is-----her mouth does *runneth over* :lol: but she is ALIVE!!!
Imagine Kait will be 20 years old comes March also----I might ask Di to include Kait in celebrating her birthday with Di and her companion---
RIGHT!!!!!!


I quit----I am so furious

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Post by tex »

Barbara,

Well that takes the cake, doesn't it. I sure can't blame you for feeling that way - I'll bet any of us would, if we were in that situation.

It's not like Diane is going to win the Nobel prize or something of that sort, if she pulls off the perfect birthday celebration. She'll still be 50 years old the next day, no matter what Kait does, but after that day Diane will no longer be a humanist, if she excludes Kait from the celebration. If she doesn't realize what a huge loss that would be, then she obviously doesn't realize "what makes the world go round."

Maybe she thinks the sun rises and sets over her :crack: .

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Post by starfire »

That is the absolute pits, Barbara!! After all these years of friendship to pull something like that. I am almost speechless.

Sure hope she will reconsider, but even if she does it will never be the same.

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I would think that by age 50 someone would be past the superficiality of trying to impress others. What you are describing is something a preteen would do, not a 50-year old woman. I'm flabbergasted.
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Post by MaggieRedwings »

Morning Barbara,

Now I have heard everything!!!!! This is absolutely idiculous "reasoning?" and behavior from a so-called mature adult about to turn 50. I would be absolutely outraged and at this point even if she should change her mind and say OK to Kait coming, the relationship will never be the same. I feel so very bad for Kait, Lynn, you and everyone involved.

What in the heck is she thinking?

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Post by hazel »

Who told you this, Barbara? Maybe it's just something that was discussed in an abstract way but not decided on? Maybe Diane doesn't feel that way. Have the invitations gone out? Wait and see what really happens.
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Post by sunny »

Barbara, I don't have the benefit of history with this group, and particularly Kait's issues but I do know how families can be so hurtful, often with no clue to the damage their words and decisions cause. And also how hard to ask the tough questions like, "What's up with this decision?" But those who in life are clueless when it comes to hints are often surprised that their actions bothered us!!
Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you and hoping for a good outcome, especially for Kait.
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Post by CAMary »

Wow, Barbara!

I am floored :eek: And I would think, that Diane, as a person leading an "alternative lifestyle" would be more sensitive and inclusive to those around her. She *must* understand how it feels to be excluded/rejected. I'm really shocked by the insensitivity!

This is truly shameful! I would be hurt, too!

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I am speechless....unbelievable! :cry:

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