This Man Has Touched My Heart!!

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This Man Has Touched My Heart!!

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:cry: :cry: When Jack was diagnosed with prostate cancer in February 2007, I joined a prostate cancer support board.

Thru the months and up until now there is a man that posted alot on that board. Never of course, knowing him personally, I grabbed on to his wisdom, personality and humor. I followed his posts when he was caring for his wife that had terminal cancer and his emotional posts up until she spread her wings and went to the beautiful mansion in the sky. He has been a great advocate for men everywhere and even wrote a book.

About a month ago he posted that he thought he was getting dementia.

He went and had an MRI.
They found a huge brain tumor and have given him 4-6 months to live.

One of his posts on the board came into my inbox this evening..

This just breaks my heart!
> From: APilgrm@aol.com
> I have not been on today because I forgot how to get
> on the list. I have written it down so hopefully I wont
> have trouble l later. I just can't believe how much I forget
> in such a short time.
>
> Talked with the oncologist today about starting hospice. Hate
> the thought, but it is necessary to start making plans.
>
> There are so many things that need to be done and so little time.
> But I have my granddaughter to help and I am sure it will be okay.
>
> Just a couple of months ago I had no idea just how bad off I was.
> A nurse at the Veterans noticed it and took away my car keys. This
> was after I had the accident in the parking lot. I shutter to think of
> what could have happened. So grateful that I did not harm someone.
>
> They are going to set up plans for hospice. It all seems like a bad
> dream. I keep trying to wake up. This can't be happening to me.
>
> Still I have to be realistic. I am trying to get all my finances and
> other important things in order. No easy task for I am a slob in
> many ways. I probably don't need to be doing all this right now.
> One doctor said that I may have as much as a year or more.
> He was not very convincing. Of course no one knows.
>
> One thing is for sure- if one is given a diagnosis such as this
> it sure gets your attention.
>
> Sorry for such a downer type message.
>
> Love
>
> Aubrey
>
"What the heart gives away is never gone ... It is kept in the hearts of others."
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Post by annie oakley »

:cry: Wow!! what a brave soul. He will have a better reward waiting for him when he re-joins his wife.
Love Oma
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Post by tex »

Fate can be mighty cruel, at times.

Thanks for sharing.

Love,
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Many prayers for this brave man. Life sure can throw some curve balls but it seems that he has played his game hard, long, and with dignity.

Many hugs to you my dear friend,
Mars
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Post by starfire »

:cry:
He sounds so brave.
When the eagles are silent, the parrots begin to jabber"
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Post by barbaranoela »

that was a sad post from AUBREY--yet in a strong way too---
Facing facts and getting *issues* in order---

I know many times Lou and I talk about this but I am the one that doesnt want to hear it---
As Aubrey--Lou has guided me to what I have to do and where all the papers are that I must follow--
My children also know the things to do and take care of---

Thanks for letting us read Aubrey's posting to U DEE~~~

Luve Barbara
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Post by kimpatt »

Oh, Dee, this sweet man's post makes me want to cry...
He sounds like a wonderfully caring person who is having to deal with such a difficult condition...cognitive decline.

I work in a nursing facility (physical therapy), and I always find these types of situations the most difficult....folks who are just beginning the road to dementia...still aware enough to realize that they are declining. I have a tough time emotionallly with folks like your friend because you can stilll 'see' what normal was like not so long ago for them, but dementia seems to set in quickly, leaving normal behind. It's just not fair. I know life isn't, but it still sucks.

I know you will offer him the best support and love you can...
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Post by MaggieRedwings »

My heart goes out to Aubrey and he is doing the right thing instead of being down and pessimistic he is being proactive and when his time comes his dear wife will be waiting for him with open arms. My prayers are with him.

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Just checking to see that I can post OK on this thread.
When the eagles are silent, the parrots begin to jabber"
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