U know what--maybe I have jumped the gun--a bit-- in reference to Kait's behavior---but it is not appropiate to *mouth* off about Lynn --As U can recall, she has been mouthy since all her times dealing with operations and hospital stays---at times she knew what was going *amuck* sooner than the hospital staff did~~~
And U certainly are right----the neuro's--leaving out 1 name-- havent been of any great perfectionism--
Yessssssssss------her hernia issue has been close to a year ---
So I gather *EYE* have to re-adjust my thinking and listen to Kaits side of this story~~~~BUT---L and I have seen and watched her --when she is being nasty---but felt *should we butt in or not*
I know once I did---when we went to grab a bite and she was a total bitch to the waitress and if U remember my post--I believe I flung the menu at her and said *enuf* or something to that effect
thanks for giving me 2nd thoughts on our approach
luve Barbara
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Barbara,
I didn't mean to suggest that there's anything wrong with your attitude about Kait. I fully agree that she is totally out of line to be speaking that way about Lynn. Lynn is an incredible mom. I'm sure that a lot of mothers, after running into a brick wall, time and time again, year after year, would have finally said "Enough! - I've done everything I can - you'll just have to learn to live with it". Lynn never gives up - she's always looking for another way to find help for Kait, no matter what it takes, and so she is most certainly the one person in this world for whom Kait has absolutely no reason to show any disrespect.
I'm pretty sure that the reason for Kait's misguided attitude toward Lynn is simply due to subconscious association. IOW, Lynn tells Kait that she must have a certain procedure, and when it doesn't work, then Kait associates Lynn with the failed procedure, and subconsciously blames her for it. And, of course, all teenagers consider their parents to be dunces, and blame them for everything that's wrong in their world. Of course, Kait is no longer a teenager, but due to circumstances, she may be sort of locked into a "rebellious" teenager mode. Coaxing her out of that teenager "shell", and into adulthood, and the associated responsibilities that go with it, may be necessary, in order to change her attitude, and her behavior. Maybe she just doesn't realize that she's an adult now, and adults don't behave that way, (well, at least most of them don't).
Yes, I remember your post about that incident at the restaurant, and I thought that you handled it quite well.
I feel so sorry for Kait - she's had such a tough life, and I can certainly see how she might feel bitter about certain issues in her life, but one thing that she should never be bitter about is all the love and dedication that Lynn has never hesitated to give to her.
Luve,
Galahad
I didn't mean to suggest that there's anything wrong with your attitude about Kait. I fully agree that she is totally out of line to be speaking that way about Lynn. Lynn is an incredible mom. I'm sure that a lot of mothers, after running into a brick wall, time and time again, year after year, would have finally said "Enough! - I've done everything I can - you'll just have to learn to live with it". Lynn never gives up - she's always looking for another way to find help for Kait, no matter what it takes, and so she is most certainly the one person in this world for whom Kait has absolutely no reason to show any disrespect.
I'm pretty sure that the reason for Kait's misguided attitude toward Lynn is simply due to subconscious association. IOW, Lynn tells Kait that she must have a certain procedure, and when it doesn't work, then Kait associates Lynn with the failed procedure, and subconsciously blames her for it. And, of course, all teenagers consider their parents to be dunces, and blame them for everything that's wrong in their world. Of course, Kait is no longer a teenager, but due to circumstances, she may be sort of locked into a "rebellious" teenager mode. Coaxing her out of that teenager "shell", and into adulthood, and the associated responsibilities that go with it, may be necessary, in order to change her attitude, and her behavior. Maybe she just doesn't realize that she's an adult now, and adults don't behave that way, (well, at least most of them don't).
Yes, I remember your post about that incident at the restaurant, and I thought that you handled it quite well.
I feel so sorry for Kait - she's had such a tough life, and I can certainly see how she might feel bitter about certain issues in her life, but one thing that she should never be bitter about is all the love and dedication that Lynn has never hesitated to give to her.
Luve,
Galahad
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