Here is an update on my daughter Ashlee:
She was kicked out of rehab a week before she was to graduate. She wasn't following the rules or going to classes etc. So that meant she wasn't able to come home and live with us. The deal was if she left or was asked to leave rehab she couldn't come home. This all worked out for the best because we moved her into a sober living house. She is with 9 other women in the same situation who can support each other. She seems to be doing well. She is at our house every other weekend when we get our grandbaby Kylee. I totally stay out of her recovery. They told us at rehab that this is her recovery not ours. So I don't ask questions or nag her about going to AA meetings. I have seen a lot of changes in her but she has a long way to go. We are hopeful but know that things can change. We are just taking it one day at a time.
Hugs and love,
Lori
Update on Ashlee
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Update on Ashlee
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Hi Lori, your grandchild is adorable! (I'm assuming that's the picture beside your post.) I have a grandson and know the special joy grandchildren bring. I ache for you and your daughter. I have a son who made some bad choices at a time in his life and broke our hearts. He's doing great now, but it sure is painful at the time. Good luck to all of you, JoAnn
Hi Lori!!
Sounds like your holding strong to the "tough love" part of this.. I know how damn hard it is at times.
My son, is an alcoholic and I have asked many times, "will somebody define rock bottom to me'???
I don't know how much worse off he can get.
I have chosen to also stay out and away from his choices. I figure, he's the one that has to make the decision to want to get the help he desperately needs.
All any of us dealing with this type of situation can do is take one day at a time like you have stated..
Thinking of You!!
Love
Dee~~~~
Sounds like your holding strong to the "tough love" part of this.. I know how damn hard it is at times.
My son, is an alcoholic and I have asked many times, "will somebody define rock bottom to me'???
I don't know how much worse off he can get.
I have chosen to also stay out and away from his choices. I figure, he's the one that has to make the decision to want to get the help he desperately needs.
All any of us dealing with this type of situation can do is take one day at a time like you have stated..
Thinking of You!!
Love
Dee~~~~
"What the heart gives away is never gone ... It is kept in the hearts of others."
hi umber...
just like to say that i work with alcohol abuse and its a very hard challenge for the victim of alcohol abuse to go straight.. let alone other people telling them to get sober permanently. ..Im sure ashlee will get where she wants to be if she is determined to suceed....It takes a lot of control, dicipline and perseverance to get to that recovery point..Its good that she is around others with the same problem and the focus is on recovery...Sometimes rehab doesnt always work for people because they begin to feel suffocated and have a hard time dealing with withdrawl and reality. Also they become depressed if they have failed in their goal to suceed. Im my opinion as a s worker.. staying abstinent from alcohol for short periods of time is an achievment on its own.
Im sure her family will give her all the support and help she needs and i think your doing the best thing for her not to "nag"..im sure she will appreciate that...good luck and tc
just like to say that i work with alcohol abuse and its a very hard challenge for the victim of alcohol abuse to go straight.. let alone other people telling them to get sober permanently. ..Im sure ashlee will get where she wants to be if she is determined to suceed....It takes a lot of control, dicipline and perseverance to get to that recovery point..Its good that she is around others with the same problem and the focus is on recovery...Sometimes rehab doesnt always work for people because they begin to feel suffocated and have a hard time dealing with withdrawl and reality. Also they become depressed if they have failed in their goal to suceed. Im my opinion as a s worker.. staying abstinent from alcohol for short periods of time is an achievment on its own.
Im sure her family will give her all the support and help she needs and i think your doing the best thing for her not to "nag"..im sure she will appreciate that...good luck and tc
Angy ;)
Hi Lori!
As Hazel said, it's two steps forward and then one back, which seems to be the nature of the addiction beast. But it sounds positive overall, so there is every reason to be hopeful, I think. I also think it's good that you are distancing yourselves from Ashlee's recovery. It must be so difficult.
Please give her a great big hug from me and tell her I'm rooting for her! Kylee gets cuter and cuter, if that's possible!
Love,
Polly
As Hazel said, it's two steps forward and then one back, which seems to be the nature of the addiction beast. But it sounds positive overall, so there is every reason to be hopeful, I think. I also think it's good that you are distancing yourselves from Ashlee's recovery. It must be so difficult.
Please give her a great big hug from me and tell her I'm rooting for her! Kylee gets cuter and cuter, if that's possible!
Love,
Polly
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