I see so many new names......I am so out of touch! Welcome! I hate that I let life life get too busy, so many things that don't get attended to.
I haven't given an update on my daughter in some time. I so wish I had good news to share. Things haven't been going well. We were so full of hope when she was in rehab. Was kicked out of rehab, kicked out of a sober living house after a month, tested positive for narcotics. She is in her own apartment now, no job, no phone, not much contact, and no contact at all with her daughter. She isn't working her recovery. Her doctor put her on soboxone. From what I understand it takes away the cravings for opiates. But, you still have to do the work. A little concerned about her doc....he is also giving her anti-anxiety medication & that is just what we know about.
There is a positive side! My husband and I are taking control. We are at the fed up point. We aren't going to tolerate her bad behavior. We are finished with enabling her. We have to say NO to everything that allows her to continue her addiction and do it! This has taken over our lives and we can't allow this to be the center of our world. Too much life out there to be living. We feel empowered, what a good feeling of relief that provides!
Lots of stress lately, seems like every where, work, home. I started going back to acupuncture and feel better after just one session. Good thing is only a couple of flare ups, but were nothing!
Kylee still rocks our world and she knows it. Her Dad has totally stepped up to the plate and is a really great Dad. You can tell by Kylee's behavior. She is well adjusted and happy. What more can you ask for?!
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Lori
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Glad you checked in and I know your hearts are breaking about your daughter.
It's great news, though, that Kylee's Dad is pulling his weight and she is doing well.
You have to focus on the positives as much as possible.
Love, Shirley
It's great news, though, that Kylee's Dad is pulling his weight and she is doing well.
You have to focus on the positives as much as possible. Love, Shirley
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When our children choose a path of abusing drugs/alcohol it doesn't affect only them. It's effects causes fallout through out the entire family as well as friends who care deeply for the person.
I will keep you and your family in my prayers that God and All His Angels will watchover, protect and guide you through this troubled time.
It's hard to inforce "Tough Love" but it's truly neccessary that whatever you tell your daughter that you are NO LONGER going to tolerate that you, your husband and all family members follow through. It won't help her if anyone caves in and enables her to continue with her behavior.
We don't know what her outcome will be but it's very very important that you say what you mean and mean what you say. Follow through and don't give in. Will this be hard. Ohhhhhhhhhhh, at times it will crush your heart but as much as you want to hold her in your arms and make all the bad things go away...............You can't do this for her. She now has to want and get sober for herself. No ones "Rock Bottom" is the same and it's still possible the your daughter still has not learned yet.
Focus on that little one who needs so desperately to be loved by you and who will accept your unconditional love.
Love and God Bless:
Jodi
I will keep you and your family in my prayers that God and All His Angels will watchover, protect and guide you through this troubled time.
It's hard to inforce "Tough Love" but it's truly neccessary that whatever you tell your daughter that you are NO LONGER going to tolerate that you, your husband and all family members follow through. It won't help her if anyone caves in and enables her to continue with her behavior.
We don't know what her outcome will be but it's very very important that you say what you mean and mean what you say. Follow through and don't give in. Will this be hard. Ohhhhhhhhhhh, at times it will crush your heart but as much as you want to hold her in your arms and make all the bad things go away...............You can't do this for her. She now has to want and get sober for herself. No ones "Rock Bottom" is the same and it's still possible the your daughter still has not learned yet.
Focus on that little one who needs so desperately to be loved by you and who will accept your unconditional love.
Love and God Bless:
Jodi
May God and All His Angels, watchover, protect and guide you "One Day At A Time".
Hi Lori,
So good to hear from you! I was hoping for an update but wish the news were better. It sounds like you and hubby have found the best approach for now. I can only imagine how sad and frustrated you must feel. As Shirley said, it's good to focus on the positives, and I'm so happy to hear that dad is pulling his weight. And, of course, Kylee, who is adorable and continues to do so well with your love and support. I still have a feeling that Ashlee will find her way eventually. She has so many good qualities.
Please take care of yourself in all of this stress. Are you able to focus on one day at a time? I'm sure it's difficult.
Thinking of you and sending a big hug.....
Love,
Polly
So good to hear from you! I was hoping for an update but wish the news were better. It sounds like you and hubby have found the best approach for now. I can only imagine how sad and frustrated you must feel. As Shirley said, it's good to focus on the positives, and I'm so happy to hear that dad is pulling his weight. And, of course, Kylee, who is adorable and continues to do so well with your love and support. I still have a feeling that Ashlee will find her way eventually. She has so many good qualities.
Please take care of yourself in all of this stress. Are you able to focus on one day at a time? I'm sure it's difficult.
Thinking of you and sending a big hug.....
Love,
Polly
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Hi Lori,
Sorry to hear things are not going any better with your daughter but I honestly think you have taken the proper approach. Tough love can be really tough on you but it far outweighs any enabling of her condition. Do hope things improve and that she really buckles down and realizes that she has to control her life the right way.
Love, Maggie
Sorry to hear things are not going any better with your daughter but I honestly think you have taken the proper approach. Tough love can be really tough on you but it far outweighs any enabling of her condition. Do hope things improve and that she really buckles down and realizes that she has to control her life the right way.
Love, Maggie
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