Hi Everyone

Umber · Post by **Umber** » Sat May 09, 2009 9:09 pm

Had a minute so thought I would say hello! I am going to take a little time to read some posts. I know I will never catch up but I can get a feel for what is going on.

My youngest daughter who is 18 has "just a friend" who happens to be a boy

. I have free reign of the computer!

Things are going good. Not fantastic yet but good. Dealing with addiction is exhausting. Especially when the person doesn't want to do the work that recovery requires. That is where we are at. We are DONE enabling and have already have inforced our resolve. It has been difficult saying NO and trying best I can to make sure she knows we love her. In her eyes we are abandoning her. The more we say NO the stronger I get and more empowered I feel. Empowerment is AWESOME. I had to go to the custody hearing and was going to have to speak on behalf of Kylee's Dad and against my daughter. The judge didn't make me testify which I was very relieved. You can imagine how that went over. I have come to terms with this is her recovery. She either wants to do it or she doesn't. I don't have a say either way! Life is so funny....In in trying to help my daughter, I learned WAY more about myself. I have decided to go to a family psychologist. Then hope to eventually bring the family together. We need healing too.

Our Kylee has been in the hospital since Thursday morning. Her Dad rushed her to the ER because she was having trouble breathing. They still don't know what the problem is. They believe something viral effecting her lungs and it just has to run its course. She is in the best pediactric hospital in Portland and is being well cared for. She is a very sick little girl. They had to put her back on oxygen and decided to keep her tonight. I am hoping she gets better. I hate seeing her so sick. She has a huge circle of family and friends that love her. Mostly her g'ma, hehe!

I hadn't had any problem with D in so long. I am trying to get my thyroid regulated and doc is adjusting my T-3 & T-4 levels. My T-3 was at the top of the range causing hyper-thyroid symptoms (this is probably foreign to those of you lucky enough to not have tyroid issues.) When I have too much T-3 I have D and all the problems that come along with it. I finally talked my doc into lowering it. I hope when I get things under control the D will go away! It will be interesting to see what happens.

Much love to all! Happy Spring!

Lori

hazel · Post by **hazel** » Sun May 10, 2009 5:27 am

Good to hear from you, Lori. I sure hope Kylee is feeling better soon. She's too little to be so sick. Other than that it sounds like you are making progress on several fronts. Hope that will continue. Happy Mother's Day!

starfire · Post by **starfire** » Sun May 10, 2009 6:13 am

Hi Lori,
I think you are doing the right thing regarding your daughter and it IS tough but sounds like you are handling it in a good way.

Hope little Kylee is better real soon and feeling like her old self. It is so hard to see the little ones sick or in pain.

Love, Shirley

barbaranoela · Post by **barbaranoela** » Sun May 10, 2009 8:03 am

Hi Lori---so good to see U here again--even just for a catch up----

I know *where* U are at this point of life----and YES---U are doing the right thing---as we all know it is called TOUGH LOVE--having been there with our daughter Lynn----she was heading for *a no return* place in life--until I took the guts and *stopped her one day--as she entered the house--after being gone for 3 dayz---and said *stop--and get out* to add---we got her all the help that was out there but it HAD TO BE HER CHOICE to CHANGE

But thankfully she found her way back and and is the BEST MOTHER and person that I could ever be proud of---as U put it--she wanted to GET HER LIFE BACK--

Lori---be strong--know that U are doing the right thing--never feel less of yourself for trying to get your daughter back to living--

Luve and happy mothers day
Barbara

MaggieRedwings · Post by **MaggieRedwings** » Mon May 11, 2009 5:57 am

Morning Lori,

Nice to see you posting and I believe you are on the correct track with your daughter. So sorry to hear about Kylee and do hope they find the root of the problem.

Love, Maggie

Polly · Post by **Polly** » Mon May 11, 2009 8:01 am

Oh my, Lori.

I am upset to hear about Kylee. Viral pneumonia (if that's what it is) can really make one sick. The important thing is the supportive care (since antibiotics don't help) until the virus runs its course. And it sounds as if she is in the right place for that. Please keep us posted.

Love,

Polly