Christine?
Where's Christine?
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Where's Christine?
Am I missing something here? Did she go somewhere? If not, she is being uncharacteristically quiet
Christine?
Christine?
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kate_ce1995
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TendrTummy
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Lol Sorry guys ..
It's been a STRESSFUL time..
I got a promotion at work a week ago, and haven't had time to scratch my a$$ much less come visit you all during work hours. My journals have been abandoned lately..
Now, at home, stress is kicked into high gear. We're taking my ex to court to rearrange custody. We planned this, and Bill knew of it, yet when he recieved the summons, he called me, irate, yelling and screaming that I'm trying to get full custody (full PHYSICAL would indicate the schedule we want to implement for school, so it's just what they CALL it.. ), and suing him for money (because he has repeatedly ignored previous motions for change of venue, he has cost me over $500 in attorneys fees for absolutely nothing, so we're asking that he pay that as well), and he even has HIS MOTHER calling me, harrassing me. She called 4 times yesterday. I didn't answer. I have no need to talk with her. I can hardly stand her son, why would I want to talk to his IDOL??? She is more manipulative, lying and conniving than he is.
So.. I'm sorry I've been scarce.. I wish I had more time. I can feel the stress building in my gut from Bill and his ruthless mother. The fact that she's leaving messages for me makes me question everything I've been doing.. And my stress is rubbing off on everyone else in the family. Hunter's behavior lately has left much to be desired, making me feel like a horrible mother, and like I don't even DESERVE to have him most the time. *sigh*
I did meet Mary yesterday. Made a point of NOT mentioning any of this. We had a great time at Benihana, ate some great food, had some good conversations.. it's nice to put a face to the name, as she looked NOTHING like what I expected LOL (for some reason, I'd expected someone more my parents' age.. but she is pretty close to my age and has children about the same age as mine!) Anyway, we had a great time :) I think I needed to just get away from the house and the ringing phone for awhile..
Christine
It's been a STRESSFUL time..
I got a promotion at work a week ago, and haven't had time to scratch my a$$ much less come visit you all during work hours. My journals have been abandoned lately..
Now, at home, stress is kicked into high gear. We're taking my ex to court to rearrange custody. We planned this, and Bill knew of it, yet when he recieved the summons, he called me, irate, yelling and screaming that I'm trying to get full custody (full PHYSICAL would indicate the schedule we want to implement for school, so it's just what they CALL it.. ), and suing him for money (because he has repeatedly ignored previous motions for change of venue, he has cost me over $500 in attorneys fees for absolutely nothing, so we're asking that he pay that as well), and he even has HIS MOTHER calling me, harrassing me. She called 4 times yesterday. I didn't answer. I have no need to talk with her. I can hardly stand her son, why would I want to talk to his IDOL??? She is more manipulative, lying and conniving than he is.
So.. I'm sorry I've been scarce.. I wish I had more time. I can feel the stress building in my gut from Bill and his ruthless mother. The fact that she's leaving messages for me makes me question everything I've been doing.. And my stress is rubbing off on everyone else in the family. Hunter's behavior lately has left much to be desired, making me feel like a horrible mother, and like I don't even DESERVE to have him most the time. *sigh*
I did meet Mary yesterday. Made a point of NOT mentioning any of this. We had a great time at Benihana, ate some great food, had some good conversations.. it's nice to put a face to the name, as she looked NOTHING like what I expected LOL (for some reason, I'd expected someone more my parents' age.. but she is pretty close to my age and has children about the same age as mine!) Anyway, we had a great time :) I think I needed to just get away from the house and the ringing phone for awhile..
Christine
Hi Christine,
Good to hear from you again. Congrats on the promotion.
I'm sorry to hear about the problems with the ex and his "henchwoman". Can't your attorney file a motion for a court order to stop the harassment? You shouldn't have to put up with that. At the very least, ingore the messages. You know they have no merit.
Tex
Good to hear from you again. Congrats on the promotion.
I'm sorry to hear about the problems with the ex and his "henchwoman". Can't your attorney file a motion for a court order to stop the harassment? You shouldn't have to put up with that. At the very least, ingore the messages. You know they have no merit.
Tex
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TendrTummy
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*sigh*
All my lawyer's office says is to just tell them that if they want to discuss the case, they can call my lawyer. Otherwise we have nothing to discuss.. Frankly, at this point the EX- MIL has only left messages, all of them "sounding nice".. to dissuade me from using this as harrassment. If I were to call back, I'm SURE she would be as bad as or worse than her son in the way he harrasses me. I doubt either of them would ever call his office. So I guess I'll just ignore it.
Christine
All my lawyer's office says is to just tell them that if they want to discuss the case, they can call my lawyer. Otherwise we have nothing to discuss.. Frankly, at this point the EX- MIL has only left messages, all of them "sounding nice".. to dissuade me from using this as harrassment. If I were to call back, I'm SURE she would be as bad as or worse than her son in the way he harrasses me. I doubt either of them would ever call his office. So I guess I'll just ignore it.
Christine
Glad to hear from you, my dear. And I'm glad you went to lunch with Mary. I KNOW you had a good time because I've had lunch (and dinner) with her, too!!
Sorry about the ex thing. Ignore the harrassment. It is much sound and fury signifying nothing. You are a wondeful mother and have every right to do this. Just go on being yourself and don't feed whatever their problem is.
Lots of love and hugs,
Sally
Sorry about the ex thing. Ignore the harrassment. It is much sound and fury signifying nothing. You are a wondeful mother and have every right to do this. Just go on being yourself and don't feed whatever their problem is.
Lots of love and hugs,
Sally
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Congrats on the promotion Christine! I know you have worked long and hard for it!
Bummer about the harrassment though - telling you to ignore it is easier said than done, I know. Try to not let it stress you out - know you are a better person than he (and she) is and that you most definately deserve to be a mom!
Take care so that your tummy don't get any worse!
Think about you.....
Love and hugs
Bummer about the harrassment though - telling you to ignore it is easier said than done, I know. Try to not let it stress you out - know you are a better person than he (and she) is and that you most definately deserve to be a mom!
Take care so that your tummy don't get any worse!
Think about you.....
Love and hugs
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MaggieRedwings
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Hi Christine,
First things first - Congratulations on your promotion. I am sure things will settle in and then you will have time to scratch whatever.
Sorry to hear about the ex-husband thing and I know how much harrassment can harm a person. Lived with it for many, many years before and after the divorce. Things will work out and don't answer the phone but keep the tapes. They may come in handy.
Love, Maggie
First things first - Congratulations on your promotion. I am sure things will settle in and then you will have time to scratch whatever.
Sorry to hear about the ex-husband thing and I know how much harrassment can harm a person. Lived with it for many, many years before and after the divorce. Things will work out and don't answer the phone but keep the tapes. They may come in handy.
Love, Maggie
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Hi Christine!
Congrats on the promotion!
But I have mixed feelings if it means you won't be around as much. 
You are doing the right thing. If you want my pediatric opinion, here it is -kids should NOT split the school week or even year between parents. It is simply not in their best interest. They need structure and sameness, not bouncing between 2 homes every few days or months. IMHO.
Ignore your ex and his mother. They are not worth one minute of your time.
Love,
Polly
Congrats on the promotion!
But I have mixed feelings if it means you won't be around as much. You are doing the right thing. If you want my pediatric opinion, here it is -kids should NOT split the school week or even year between parents. It is simply not in their best interest. They need structure and sameness, not bouncing between 2 homes every few days or months. IMHO.
Ignore your ex and his mother. They are not worth one minute of your time.
Love,
Polly
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kate_ce1995
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Wow...you've got a lot on your plate! I'm only on the perimeter, but I can see the stress when there are ex and child custody issues. Geoff's kids were WOUND this weekend...they were good and suprisingly didn't even fight with eachother too much and got over it quickly when they did, but last week all heck broke loose in their mother's home with their step-dad wanting a divorce. I think they'd been holding it all in and finally got to a healthy place to let go.
Interesting Polly that you have that opinion on sharing custody. Geoff's kids are bounced a lot with the split...never more than 3 days at any one place. Worse yet the routine (there is a pattern to the bouncing) is constantly messed up...case in point...we thought we'd have them tonight and Wed, and Thursday. Found out late yesterday that we'll have them Tuesday, Wed, Thurs instead. Makes planning for us adults difficult too.
Funny story on the wound up children though. Erin was singing a song Saturday night as they were falling asleep (theoretically). Mostly about I ate this for breakfast, I farted...total 6 year old humor. Well then she sings "and most importantly, I had my sister for lunch"! I almost died laughing! She has this little sassy attitude that isn't a bad sassy, but a cute sassy. God help us if she ever tries to use it as bad sassy!
Katy
Interesting Polly that you have that opinion on sharing custody. Geoff's kids are bounced a lot with the split...never more than 3 days at any one place. Worse yet the routine (there is a pattern to the bouncing) is constantly messed up...case in point...we thought we'd have them tonight and Wed, and Thursday. Found out late yesterday that we'll have them Tuesday, Wed, Thurs instead. Makes planning for us adults difficult too.
Funny story on the wound up children though. Erin was singing a song Saturday night as they were falling asleep (theoretically). Mostly about I ate this for breakfast, I farted...total 6 year old humor. Well then she sings "and most importantly, I had my sister for lunch"! I almost died laughing! She has this little sassy attitude that isn't a bad sassy, but a cute sassy. God help us if she ever tries to use it as bad sassy!
Katy
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TendrTummy
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Thanks, All :)
Agreed, Polly, about hours. He lives over 40 minutes from us, so the trip is LONG. And he is CONSTANTLY changing things. I never know what to tell Hunter. Bill will call me during the day to say he has picked Hunter up from school, not even ASK, just TELL ME, and I'm expected to meet him somewhere to drop him off. Sometimes, he SAYS he'll have Hunter at daycare, and when I go to get him, he's not there yet, and Bill "lost track of time". That stuff REALLY peeves me, with all of the dangers out there for kids these days.
The other thing is the smoking. Bill is a heavy smoker and constantly exposes his son to it. His ASTHMATIC son. He is fully aware that each time he exposes Hunter to cigarettes, it directly increases his coughing and the use of his nubulizer and inhalers, and yet he continues to smoke in the car with him, in the house with him (not all the time) and in the garage with him, all of which is exposing him to TOO MUCH SMOKE. I quit a few years ago due to Hunter's asthma. Bill has been promising to quit for years. Now even Hunter knows he lies. He says all the time, "My dad lied! He said he was going to quit on my birthday!". This was his 5th birthday. He had also promised to quit the day Hunter was born. Anyway, mostly it's the direct affect it has on his asthma. When Hunter is at our house for extended periods of time, he NEVER needs his inhalers, nebulizer, doesn't cough or have any symptoms. When he goes to his dad's, even if for only a day, he suddenly has a cough again and sometimes needs inhalers and nebulizer in order to sleep.
Anyway, he's obviously sick in the head, in a lot of ways. He has also been known (so Hunter has told us) to shove Hunter's face into his plateful of Thanksgiving dinner because he wouldn't eat, to slap his face as a form of punishment, and to sleep with his child. The first 2 years we were divorced, Hunter didn't even HAVE a bed in the household. This was remedied of course the moment I threatened legal action.
I'm just so tired of all of this. It really weighs heavily on my mind. I guess it had to happen sooner or later, and unfortunately, sooner, since Hunter starts school in September. Most physicians and lawyers alike agree that Hunter need not be exposed to all of the schedule and household changes happening here, as well as the cigarette smoke. Unfortunately, Bill also lies to his mother. SHOCKING as that is. So his mother thinks he is an absolute angel. I can CLEARLY recall a night close to the demise of our marriage when we were driving to meet his parents at a restaurant, and got lost. Of course, this was all my fault, altho I wasn't holding a map, had never been to the restaurant, and wasn't driving. By the time we finally got there, I was in tears and couldn't stop crying long enough to maintain my composure for dinner. So instead of crying in front of his family, I retreated to the restroom. His mother, nosy as she is, followed me, and asked me what was wrong. I began to tell her the TRUTH. How Bill was $11K in debt from classes he'd never completed (he'd lied to them and told them he had a degree by then), about the way he was treating me (basically like a dog - even his SISTER said this), and about the way he treated the kids (not nice, that's for sure). Know what her comment was??? "Awe, is it that time of the month?"
I could NOT believe it. Still can't. She is an old-time southern belle type, the type that would rather her husband do all the careering, and she do all the child-rearing. The type that would rather stay with her cheating husband and "act" like all is well for the sake of society not knowing she was cheated upon. That type. Ignore it and it'll go away. Sorry, REALITY doesn't actually work like that lady. You can't just SWALLOW the pain and hope it never surfaces.
Someday, she'll have an ulcer knowing her son is a jerk and that I've been a victim all these years. But for now, she harrasses me. I'm shocked there wasn't an email from her this morning in my mailbox. I can't even answer outside lines from work now. I just let it roll to voicemail. I'm so in FEAR it's pathetic. Great - that wasn't her, it was just the DAYCARE lady calling about Bill's nonpayment. He owes them over $800 and now *I* get to pay his portion as he is no longer welcome there.
SIGH..
Christine
Agreed, Polly, about hours. He lives over 40 minutes from us, so the trip is LONG. And he is CONSTANTLY changing things. I never know what to tell Hunter. Bill will call me during the day to say he has picked Hunter up from school, not even ASK, just TELL ME, and I'm expected to meet him somewhere to drop him off. Sometimes, he SAYS he'll have Hunter at daycare, and when I go to get him, he's not there yet, and Bill "lost track of time". That stuff REALLY peeves me, with all of the dangers out there for kids these days.
The other thing is the smoking. Bill is a heavy smoker and constantly exposes his son to it. His ASTHMATIC son. He is fully aware that each time he exposes Hunter to cigarettes, it directly increases his coughing and the use of his nubulizer and inhalers, and yet he continues to smoke in the car with him, in the house with him (not all the time) and in the garage with him, all of which is exposing him to TOO MUCH SMOKE. I quit a few years ago due to Hunter's asthma. Bill has been promising to quit for years. Now even Hunter knows he lies. He says all the time, "My dad lied! He said he was going to quit on my birthday!". This was his 5th birthday. He had also promised to quit the day Hunter was born. Anyway, mostly it's the direct affect it has on his asthma. When Hunter is at our house for extended periods of time, he NEVER needs his inhalers, nebulizer, doesn't cough or have any symptoms. When he goes to his dad's, even if for only a day, he suddenly has a cough again and sometimes needs inhalers and nebulizer in order to sleep.
Anyway, he's obviously sick in the head, in a lot of ways. He has also been known (so Hunter has told us) to shove Hunter's face into his plateful of Thanksgiving dinner because he wouldn't eat, to slap his face as a form of punishment, and to sleep with his child. The first 2 years we were divorced, Hunter didn't even HAVE a bed in the household. This was remedied of course the moment I threatened legal action.
I'm just so tired of all of this. It really weighs heavily on my mind. I guess it had to happen sooner or later, and unfortunately, sooner, since Hunter starts school in September. Most physicians and lawyers alike agree that Hunter need not be exposed to all of the schedule and household changes happening here, as well as the cigarette smoke. Unfortunately, Bill also lies to his mother. SHOCKING as that is. So his mother thinks he is an absolute angel. I can CLEARLY recall a night close to the demise of our marriage when we were driving to meet his parents at a restaurant, and got lost. Of course, this was all my fault, altho I wasn't holding a map, had never been to the restaurant, and wasn't driving. By the time we finally got there, I was in tears and couldn't stop crying long enough to maintain my composure for dinner. So instead of crying in front of his family, I retreated to the restroom. His mother, nosy as she is, followed me, and asked me what was wrong. I began to tell her the TRUTH. How Bill was $11K in debt from classes he'd never completed (he'd lied to them and told them he had a degree by then), about the way he was treating me (basically like a dog - even his SISTER said this), and about the way he treated the kids (not nice, that's for sure). Know what her comment was??? "Awe, is it that time of the month?"
I could NOT believe it. Still can't. She is an old-time southern belle type, the type that would rather her husband do all the careering, and she do all the child-rearing. The type that would rather stay with her cheating husband and "act" like all is well for the sake of society not knowing she was cheated upon. That type. Ignore it and it'll go away. Sorry, REALITY doesn't actually work like that lady. You can't just SWALLOW the pain and hope it never surfaces.
Someday, she'll have an ulcer knowing her son is a jerk and that I've been a victim all these years. But for now, she harrasses me. I'm shocked there wasn't an email from her this morning in my mailbox. I can't even answer outside lines from work now. I just let it roll to voicemail. I'm so in FEAR it's pathetic. Great - that wasn't her, it was just the DAYCARE lady calling about Bill's nonpayment. He owes them over $800 and now *I* get to pay his portion as he is no longer welcome there.
SIGH..
Christine