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Why I took a leave~~~

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As we know that saying --things happen in 3's--and I was hoping that it wasnt going to be--in sad times--

As U all know Juliette --passed away March 30th
Well last week our friends---Red(name is Walter) and Doris lost their daughter--Mary Kay--age 46---they usually chat here and there but after a few days --Doris and Red went to her house and found her at the bottom of the staircase-upon an autopsy -she died of a broken neck---it was a heartbreaking ceremony because Mary Kay was involed in caring for disfunctional people--(at a place called Camp Venture)
Some of the workers brought a few of Mary Kay's *students* as she called them and this was very emotional to see how distraught they were--an older gent---who spoke in sign -put his hand to to heart and then laid his hand on the casket--

The other night another dear friend called to tell me--that his friends young son passed!!!!
Needless to say--I mull around with that*why* word running thru my head--
I guess we are not to ask *why*
Accept!!!!! I can't accept the lives taken away from them~~~

I have allowed myself to fall into that deep dark pit--I know I will climb out--

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Post by Gabes-Apg »

Barbara
dont stay in the dark pit too long

we will miss your smiling face too much.

why is there such a demonatic condition like MC
why do beautiful intelligent young people suffer cancer and die
the acceptance comes in realising we will never know the why. We cant always control the outcomes.

big hugs
take care of you
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Post by Stanz »

I'm so sorry Barbara, death is always hard to accept, but 3 in a row would be devastating for anyone. It takes time to deal with this, please know we're thinking of you.

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Post by grannyh »

It is ok to crawl into a corner/pit once in awhile.. as long as we recharge ourselves and climb out and start to move on:)
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Post by Emjayn »

Barbara, You are not alone in your sad questioning. My younger sister recently died in a few months, of a brain tumour and right now my dear best buddie's hubby is getting ready to leave us, with cancer of pancreas and liver.
I know we are all to go one day and sometimes I think we are being given many griefs to bear, to prepare us for our own demise. Im not afraid of dying, only of the pain there might be before I go, and wanting to protect those that love me. I believe we all go to a better place where there is no sickness or pain. Please dont be down too long. The dark times can make the good times brighter in contrast.
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Post by angy »

poem for u.......

The Balm Of God's Love

When we lose someone we love
The loss seems too great to bear
God sends us friends to comfort us
To show that He deeply cares

But in the dark hours of the night
When there’s nobody else around
When we feel the saddest and loneliest
It’s there God’s love can be found

It’s like a soothing, healing balm
To soothe our broken hearts
The healing oil poured over us
That flows into every part

We can rest secure in God’s love
And know He’s by our side
He holds us when we feel as though
A part of us has died

We can know that God will listen
When we just want to talk
And when we feel we need to cry
We can share it with the Lord

For He is always waiting there
Ready with arms open wide
As we pour out the hurt within
He pours His love inside

Our Father above loves us so much
And will never leave us alone
He will not forsake us in our need
To face this on our own

He comforts us and strengthens us
And rubs us with His balm
And as the dawn breaks through the night
We’ll awake in His loving arms.



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Post by starfire »

Barbara,
Thank you for posting. I'm so sorry all this has come upon the people you care about and in such a short time. As was said above, please don't stay in that "pit" too long. We love you and care about you too much. You need some time to yourself, but please don't shut out others for too long.

Angy,
I love the poem........ I really do.

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Post by MaggieRedwings »

Morning Barbara,

I am so sorry that the terrible 3 hit you and totally understand where you are coming from. When my sister died at 41 I just could not understand why someone so young.

Seems you and I have been in the deep dark pit but I have just started to crawl out of it. Hit me like a ton of bricks and do not really know where it came from but have been there for a few weeks now. I am starting to see the light and am so happy about that. I am not one who becomes depressed but think it just may be that Frank is about to retire - I totally hope so - and I am still working and retirement is not going to be a piece of cake due to this friggin economy. Love to you and Lou and hope you see the light soon.

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Post by ant »

Dear Barbara

You have every right to be angry with fate. It is good to be angry sometimes and I am sure we have all gone into the dark place at times....... we would not be human if we did not get angry and despair.

There have been times I have thought I would die (the first time I was only 13 yrs). I feel, now, that as long as there is a sunrise there is hope.

Love, Ant
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Hiya Sis,

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Much love,

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