We are devistated!

Umber · Post by **Umber** » Mon Aug 08, 2005 6:32 am

My daughter & grandbaby are NOT coming home from Hawaii. I should have known when the date for them to fly home kept extending.

My Mom will be here on Thursday. She was coming up to see them before the moved. She is upset too.

My 14 year old was in tears all night. She loves her big sis and absolutely adores Kylee.

I knew she would probably move there but didn't think she wouldn't come home to say goodbye and tie up all the loose ends.

I haven't slept all night, I should get ready for work. I don't even know what more to say.

Hugs

Lori

barbaranoela · Post by **barbaranoela** » Mon Aug 08, 2005 6:58 am

Dear Lori--I wish I could give U a :bigbighug:

--in hopes that it might help in some way~~~~

But as U know,kids sometimes dont think and do things their way--They have to learn THEIR way-----

I dont know what else to say---cus right now there are no right/wrong things I can offer U- Just my

My thoughts are with U --

Luv Barbara

Polly · Post by **Polly** » Mon Aug 08, 2005 7:16 am

Oh Lori!

Of course you are devastated. I know how much you were looking forward to seeing them. I am thinking of all of you and sending

and

.

Lots of love,

Polly

starfire · Post by **starfire** » Mon Aug 08, 2005 8:04 am

Lori,
My heart is aching for you. I really understand how you must feel. As Barbara said, Kids often just don't understand how the things they do (and sometimes say) can affect others, especially someone so close. In fact, some oldersters don't either.

and

Shirley

kate_ce1995 · Post by **kate_ce1995** » Mon Aug 08, 2005 8:37 am

Oh Lori. I don't know what to say!

I'd volunteer for giving her either a hug or hell when I'm in Hawaii in a couple of weeks, but I won't be on the same island (she is in Maui, right?).

Katy

Sally · Post by **Sally** » Mon Aug 08, 2005 9:12 am

Lori, I am so sorry. I can just feel the anguish you must be feeling. I am thinking of Korben, of course. I would be devastated, too.

Our children are our greatest joy and our greatest hurt.

I don't know what else to say, either, except to send you many hugs and my love,

Sally

MaggieRedwings · Post by **MaggieRedwings** » Mon Aug 08, 2005 9:39 am

Hi Lori,

My heart goes out to you and I don't even have kids to know what it is really like. I have inherited Frank's 2 so I guess in many ways I qualify.

Sally said it best - "Our children are are greatest joy and our greatest hurt."

I hope they rethink this plan and at least visit before moving there.

Love, Maggie

Mars · Post by **Mars** » Mon Aug 08, 2005 9:58 am

Oh Lori, I'm so sorry. All I can do is offer my love and :bigbighug:

Love, Margie

Peggy · Post by **Peggy** » Mon Aug 08, 2005 10:46 am

Lori,

Having never been a parent I don't qualify to say that I know how you feel, but I do feel your pain. I'm so sorry, truly I am.

Big hugz my friend,
Love
Peggy

Geri · Post by **Geri** » Mon Aug 08, 2005 1:22 pm

Dear Lori,

I am so sorry for you. I can only hope that things work out for the best, and that you will find peace and comfort while they are away. I will be praying for you.

Love and hugs,

Geri

Momster · Post by **Momster** » Mon Aug 08, 2005 1:52 pm

It's so hard when we are separated from our children, no matter what their age. I guess your daughter found it hard to tell you, so didn't know how to handle it. At any rate, there's not much you can do but look forward to visiting them in Hawaii and cherish the time and wonderful memories you have had with them. I'm sure there are many more to come.
My heart goes out to you. I wish I could do something to help, but just know I care and understand.

Love - Momster :flowersmiley:

moremuscle · Post by **moremuscle** » Mon Aug 08, 2005 2:32 pm

Oh Lori,

I can feel your pain through your writing - it is so difficult when you've had your hopes and expectations up to find a soft landing. It can hurt so bad to feel like you've been let down.

Momster said she thinks your daughter didn't know how to tell you and so she didn't. I think Momster is right. I've been a daughter myself - the oldest of 5 kids and when I moved away from home I started living a life that hurt my mother; she knew that I was not feeling good when I called her and I knew that I made her unhappy - so I stopped calling her, and I stopped seeing her for several years. It made me even more sad to know I disappointed her. Mother/daughter relationships can be very difficult emotionally - but they can change and improve as we mature and get used to the separation and find a way to respect and understand each other and each other's need for independence and personal space.

I don't think your daughter intended to hurt your feelings - she is probably devastated too.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your pain with us - sometimes it does help to "talk" about it; I hope it helps a little to know that we are here and that we understand your hurt.

Love,
Karen

annie oakley · Post by **annie oakley** » Mon Aug 08, 2005 3:14 pm

I am sooooo sorry Lori.

Love Oma

hazel · Post by **hazel** » Mon Aug 08, 2005 4:03 pm

I know it is hard not to see your kids--mine have lived all over the place--so I was looking through your message for something positive and I found it! Your Mom is coming on Thursday. Have a great time with your Mom!

JJ · Post by JJ » Tue Aug 09, 2005 9:18 am

Oh Lori...I am sooooo sorry.....what a huge shock! Take care kiddo...hugs to you!

Love, JJ

MICROSCOPIC COLITIS SUPPORT

We are devistated!

We are devistated!

My heart aches for U

So Sorry, Lori